BDSM

BDSM noun, acronym Bondage, Discipline (or Domination), Sadism (or Submission) and Masochism.

Bondage, in the BDSM subculture, is the practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation. A partner may be physically restrained in a variety of ways, including the use of rope, cuffs, bondage tape, or self-adhering bandage.

Forms

Tied-Up – Restraining the arms either above the elbow or more commonly at the wrists, using rope, a belt or specially designed cuffs. Ankles are another area commonly restrained.

Spanking – Using a riding crop, whip or the palm of your hand to slap your partner. Often administered to the buttocks, spanking can also be administered to other parts of the body.

Whipping – Much like spanking but using an implement other than your hand. Riding crops and specially designed whips are common tools.

Slapping – Physically striking your partners face. Needless to say, this form of BDSM requires control and communication. Slapping can also be administered to the genitals.

Cuffed – Restraining your partner using handcuffs, commonly around the wrists but also can be used on the ankles.

Edging – Masturbating either yourself or your partner close to the point of orgasm, then stopping to prevent ejaculation. Repeating this action can lead to a more powerful orgasm when finally completed.

Punishment – Usually physical, administering some form of gentle pain on your partner. Often accompanied with spoken words and as part of role-playing.

Discipline – Controlling your partner by restraint, punishment, the application of chastity cages and imprisonment.

Submissive – Allowing your dominant partner to exercise control of oneself. A submissive partner follows orders and is under the control and discipline of their partner.

Sensory Deprivation – Often achieved with a blindfold, a dominant partner will take away the ability for their submissive to see. This heightens the feelings of touch as the blindfolded partner cannot anticipate the feeling they are about to experience.

Ruined Orgasm – Masturbating either yourself or your partner to just beyond the point of orgasm, and then stopping. Once past the point of no return, but without further stimulation, the orgasm is less pleasurable and therefore is considered ruined.

Slave – Allowing a dominant partner to control your actions and behaviours, your are submissive and under strict discipline.

Leash – Often attached to a collar on the neck, but can also be around the waist or ankles, a leash is usually handled by a dominant partner and is another form of controlling a submissive person.

Pet – Used to describe submissive partners, a dominant will use a variety of toys and tools that aren’t unlike what you would use with a pet. Collars, leashes, controlling language and cages.

Gagging – Another form of perpetrating dominance over a submissive partner is to gag their mouth. In its simplest form, taping the lips closed or inserting a cloth inside the mouth works. Specialist toys or apparatus are available, including the commonly used ball gag. This fills the mouth with a hard ball and is held in place with a strap that wraps around the head.

Clamps – The use of pinching apparatus on the body to illicit pain. Often spring-loaded devices, they could be as simple as a clothes peg or stationery clip, there are also purpose-made toys that work equally as well.

Chastity Control – Enclosing the genitals in a locked device, these prevent erections and if aroused, can cause discomfort or even mild pain. Sometimes used by dominants to exercise control over their submissive partners.

Examples

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